If you’ve been a bride before, chances are you know exactly what we’re talking about.
For many brides, and couples, planning a wedding is the stuff of dreams. A momentous task that countless engaged people will have looked forward to for most of their lives. However, it can also be a very stressful and emotional process. And as a bride, you will turn to your close friends and family members throughout the engagement process, seeking help, and cheer in order to make the journey extra special. Unfortunately, sometimes, those same loved ones can start to feel a little too comfortable, and say the one wrong thing that at the drop of a hat, changes everything… Today we explore those things, and share the 7 Things You Should Never Say to a Bride-to-be.
What Not to Say to a Bride-to-be
“So and So did the same thing on her wedding day!”
Even though you may have seen something similar take place during another wedding, you should never mention it to the bride, or the bridal party. Every bride should feel like all the love and attention put into their wedding day has created something special, and unique. Not simply another wedding that looks the same as the last. Some things are just better left unsaid!
“I heard that it's supposed to be so hot/cold/rainy/snowy on your wedding day.”
The bride has probably checked the weather multiple times a day leading up to her nuptials. However, there is only so much they can do, and they've accepted that they can't control the forecast. Don't make her any more concerned than she already is by mentioning it. Besides, Mum is probably letting her know the weather forecast daily anyway…
“It was so expensive getting/staying here!”
Don’t make your problems the bride’s on her big day. Brides already know how expensive travel costs and accommodation can be, they don’t need reminding. Couples usually try to reserve a block of hotel rooms for travelling guests in order to reduce costs, but that isn’t always an option. Whatever the case, the bride doesn’t need a guilt trip on her wedding day.
“Good thing you lost weight for today!”
Never, ever talk about a bride’s weight, it's not a subject that needs to be commented on. She has probably already put tons of pressure on herself to look perfect, and she doesn’t need you offering any kind of awkward, back-handed compliment on her appearance. Instead, say something more like ‘You look wonderful! I have never seen you look more beautiful!’
“Can I see your wedding dress?”
Of course, everyone wants to see you in your wedding dress. But there are some guests who think they are so special, they can have a glimpse of it before the big day. Just so they can smugly tell everyone else they've seen it. If you're the bride, and someone asks you this, just say, “While I would love to show you my dress, I would rather keep it a surprise until the big day.”. Polite, but firm, and less sweary than your first thought!
“Why isn’t ___________ a bridesmaid??”
Every bride takes very careful consideration when it comes to selecting bridesmaids, and it is a very personal choice. If she hasn't selected your friend/niece/fiancé/auntie/local barmaid/love interest, that is not a slight on them, she has just chosen the people she wants by her side. If you do question her decision, it will more than likely sound insulting, so keep it to yourself.
“I know I promised that I would make a toast, but I didn’t have time to write anything…”
If the bride has asked you to be a part of her wedding day, in any way, it is because you are special to her. For you to simply ‘not have time’ to do something for the day is hurtful. Step up, find the time, find the words, and make your loved one feel special.