Is 10 too many? Or is 1 one not enough? Today, we solve the riddle once and for all on how many bridesmaids you should have.
Friends, and family, are vital. They are the support network, the caregivers and the stand-up comedians we all need in our lives. For most of us, the thought of marrying without them by our side is impossible to imagine. But when it comes to your top squad, your bridesmaids, how many is too many?
You might be tempted to bolster your bridesmaids squad with a few extra members. Some special heroes who really helped you through some tough times recently. And so you should. It's a gift being a bridesmaid, and an honour to be asked. But now you've added a few extra girls/boys to your crew, you may be wondering, how many bridesmaids should I have? Do I have enough? Do I have too many?!
We thought we'd lend a guiding hand, and help you understand how many bridesmaids you should have. Because it's complicated, sometimes heartbreaking, but also tough for brides to choose who those best girls & boys are. And how many there should be.
What is the Average Number of Bridesmaids?
The number of bridesmaids selected for a bridal party, is very much down to the size of the wedding. For instance, a small wedding of up to 100 people, is unlikely to have 9 bridesmaids. But a wedding of 500+ people, may do. Typically, on average, brides tend to go for around 3-5 bridesmaids.
How to Find Your Magic Number of Bridesmaids
The group of bridesmaids you pick should be made up of people you want to be first in line to see you tie the knot. They are the A-list celebs at your own personal Golden Globes. They're the family and friends you can depend on in times of crisis, and when you just want a good laugh.
If you have a group of five close friends who make you feel that way, then go with five! If you have one really, really good friend, then go with just one! It's important to remember that there are no rules, and anything we share, or you hear, is just guidance.
Your aunt might turn her nose up, when she hears you only have one bridesmaid. But don't worry about her, it's your big day, and if that one friend is better than 10 put together, then she/he should be by your side.
There is no 'correct' number of bridesmaids
You don't need a certain number of bridesmaids. You don't have to choose an odd number or an even number or a certain number. Nor pick a size based on other weddings you've been a part of.
Numbers don't matter, and there's no hard-and-fast rule that you should abide by when it comes to how many bridesmaids you want to lead the way for you down the aisle.
You don't need to match the groomsmen
There's no need to have a matching number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. The only time anyone might notice there's a difference, is if you're lining them all up together for a group shot. But any good wedding photographer will allow for this, and balance it out.
“I was their bridesmaid, so they better be mine too…”
Just because Tina picked you to be her bridesmaid, does not mean Tina needs to be yours. If you want Tina to be your bridesmaid, by all means, pick her. But don't feel forced to select Tina just because. You may not have spoken to Tina in years, or you might not feel the same way about her as she does about you. So, it would be a little awkward if you just brought her into the crew now, and tried to rekindle your friendship, whilst planning a wedding!
Pick the people who make you happy, and leave duty at the door.
You don't have to have any bridesmaids at all
In case you haven't got the gist yet, there are no rules when it comes to picking bridesmaids (or planning a wedding really!). And that means you don't have to have any, if that's what you'd prefer. But don't think this means you can't have a fabulous (drunken) hen party, oh no, you can still do that. And if your best friends are Dave, Trevor, and Simon, then there's no reason why your bridesmaids can't be bridesmen. Or groommaids. Or graids... made the last one up, it didn't work, but you get the point.
Choose the person\s that are right for the moment, regardless of sex, race, sexuality etc.
If your bridesmaids (or bridesmen) would like to wear dresses on your big day, why not book them an appointment with Bellissima! You can browse all of our lovely gowns (and jumpsuits) right here. And once if you've picked a few, let us know their numbers, and we'll get them ready for your appointment.
Laura & the girls xx