The best man speech. It’s got to be up there with one of the biggest moments of a man’s life (apart from getting married yourself and the father-of-the-bride speech, of course…). But sharing with the world why your mate is the best mate a mate can have… is pretty big!
If you’re feeling nervous, relax, because we’ve got some top best man speech tips. From how to plan it and how to write it, we’ll help to make sure this is the nicest and most enjoyable best man speech ever. This is your one-way ticket to creating a great speech full of laughter, tears and applause. Grab a notepad and start jotting down those memories!
Choose the top 10 things you really want to include in your speech. You want funny anecdotes, the story of when the groom met the bride, comments on the day so far and anything else you want to add. Questionable fashion choices? Family? And of course, a few surprises… but remember Grandma is possibly in the room!
First impressions are everything so you need to come up with a killer opening line. An anecdote or comment on the big day is your best starting point. No pressure then!
WHO IS THE BEST MAN?
While you might be doing the best man speech, you still need to tell the crowd who you are and how you know the groom. A lot of people will know you but there will still be lots of people wanting to know more about your story. But not too much, its still the wedding day not the best man day…!
TELL STORIES ABOUT THE GROOM
You know the groom the best so tell a few stories about him – but keep it clean! For a successful best man speech, tell stories of the groom’s character and the times you’ve had together. Try and paint him in a good light, it may be tempting to go for laughs with lots of drunken stories but for the other side of the family this could be the first time they are meeting the groom. So don’t ruin their first impression!
PLEASE DON’T FORGET THE BRIDE
If you don’t include the bride in your speech, it’ll be a recipe for disaster. Include the story of when the groom met the bride and what he said about her when they first met, or how happy she makes your best friend. Those will bring a tear to everybody’s eye. Commenting on how beautiful the bride looks also won’t go amiss!
KEEP IT SHORT & SWEET
Don’t put pressure on yourself when it comes to your best man speech. Keep it light-hearted. The laughs will come the more natural you are. Try and aim for a speech length of 15-20 minutes. If you give each of your 10 points around 90 seconds, you’ll have it spot on. The last thing you want is people fidgeting in their seats or staring at the exit during your big moment!
MAKE IT RELATABLE
Some of the guests won’t know you and your friends, so make your speech relatable. It’ll make it more enjoyable for guests too. You can mention memories with friends, but don’t make it all about that. A relatable story with open questions to the audience will help to keep them engaged.
MAYBE BRING A PROP
You don’t have to use one but if you’re very nervous it might help you. This could be a funny photo of the groom or something else that leads to a story. It’s much better than showing a presentation on a projector!
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
Don’t wait until the big day to say your speech for the first time. But it also doesn’t mean it needs to be a completely rehearsed dialogue. If you practice, this will help keep your timings on track for each of your bullet points. Once you know what you want to say for each point, you can use a prompt. Just remember you don’t want to sound as if you’re reading a script, but rather that you’re talking to all the guests, from the heart.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP
If you’re nervous to the point that you can’t cope, ask the other groomsmen to help with parts of the speech. They may remember stories you’ve (drunkenly) forgotten or might just have good ideas on how to present what you are trying to say. With your mates by your side, it’ll be so much easier.
Don’t forget to raise a glass to the newlyweds. After that, you’re done and can enjoy the rest of the party, we mean… wedding reception!
If you want to see what it looks like if you don’t follow our advice, click the link below…
So go on, get scribbling and reminiscing because this is your moment to shine! We believe in you Best Men!
L & the girls xx