Mother Of The Bride Jobs
The Mother of the Bride Duties Every Mother Should Know
There is a very special Sunday right around the corner and to celebrate we thought we would share the Mother of the Bride Jobs we believe yours should know! Mum’s! You knew this day would come. Your little girl is all grown up and getting married, which means you now get to play the role of mother of the bride. Whether you’re keen to be involved in every wedding planning detail, or prefer to play more of a supportive role throughout the process, there are a certain mother of the bride jobs every mum should take on. Them’s the rules!
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Be a helping hand and general cheerleader throughout
From finding the right wedding venue to the perfect dress, to even the best items to have on the wedding gift registry, your daughter will need your help and motherly advice throughout the wedding planning. No one will be able to reassure her like you, nor will anyone be able to tell her when she might be turning into a bridezilla, quite like you. So without being too dramatic be that person in her corner who she can always count on because ‘the wedding doesn’t start at the altar, it starts at the ‘I do’s‘ (Laura Daly)
Be the go-to contact for wedding supplies
If you’re paying for the wedding, or the wedding venue is near you (and the bride is not), you may be expected to help organise all of the suppliers from the florist to the caterers, entertainers and more. To ensure it goes smoothly, make sure to get all of the contact details from your daughter as soon as possible. Keep in contact with each other and let the bride know when you have completed something or there is an update, good or bad…
Research traditions and find family heirlooms
Traditionally, finding the bride ‘something old, something new’ is one of the mother of the bride jobs. Similarly, if there’s a family heirloom or tradition the bride would like incorporated into the day, it’s your job to help make this happen. Well who else is!?
Liaise with the mother of the groom
While your daughter organises her bridal party, it’s your job to liaise with the mother of the groom. Traditionally, the mother of the bride is meant to choose her wedding outfit and hat first, then notify the mother of the groom on what they are wearing. This way both mothers can ensure their outfits are in sync and avoid any clashing colours or fashion faux pas. But regardless of tradition keep in touch with the MOG and make sure she feels she is as a part of the nuptials as she wants to be. After all, she’s family now! For better or worse!
Play hostess on the day
While it may be your daughter’s big day, as mother of the bride it’s also, in a way, your day too! Traditionally, the mother and father of the bride are the proud hosts of the wedding, so on the day it’s your job to welcome guests, ensure everyone is looked after and also to take care of the wedding gifts. On the flip-side to this remember that we used the word ‘traditionally‘, listen to your bride and find out what kind of role she would like you to play on the day. However much it is your day, it is still hers and her new partner’s after all!
Remind her you love her
As exciting as planning a wedding can be, there will be times throughout the process when your daughter may end up feeling stressed, overwhelmed or needing to shoulder to cry on. At these times, just reminding her you love her, and that everything will be okay, can go a long way. So if you forget all of the mother of the bride jobs above, just rely on this one – sometimes this is all she needs!
L & the girls xx